What is BDSM in sex.
BDSM practices are now becoming more and more popular. Such activities are even advised by some family psychologists. In their opinion, with the help of BDSM you can re -find out your partner. Let’s try to figure out what BDSM is in sex.
The origin of the abbreviation
BDSM is an erotic and psychological subculture, which is based on sexual role-playing games in subordination and dominance. Partners during a sexual act cause each other physical pain or psychological humiliation.
Everything happens with the consent of both sides. To stop the “torture”, one of the partners must pronounce a previously agreed Stop Slovo.
BDSM abbreviation comes from English. The first two letters mean “bandage” (binding) and “discipline”. Part of the DS indicates the two roles that are played by the participants – “Dominant” and “Submissive” (in the Russian version you can find the values of “upper” and “lower”). The final part – cm – brief reduction from the word sadomasochism.
Initially, there was an abbreviation for cm, but it did not include all the practices that adherents of this subculture used. Sadism and masochism spoke only about physical sensations (the first to like to cause pain, the second – to receive it).
Binding and subordination were more related to practices of psychological. At this stage, an erotic exchange of power occurs, from which participants receive moral satisfaction.
What is BDSM in sex: the history of the subculture
BDSM has been practiced since ancient times. For example, during excavations at the site of Pompeii, frescoes with the depicted erotic drawings of men and women were found, who during a love act use flogging to each other.
There are descriptions of sadistic and masochistic practices during a sexual act in the main sex book of the world Kama Sutra. On its pages, you can find detailed instructions on how to flog your partner so that he will enjoy.
But in those days, these hobbies did not apply to something special. BDSM as a separate subculture was allocated only at the end of the eighteenth century.
The founder of the direction of “pain and pleasure” is rightfully considered the French writer Marquis de Sad. In his novel “Philosophy in BURGE”, he describes the sophisticated methods of sexual torture, which are applied to each other by orgies.
At the same time, the accent of the novel is not so much on physical pleasure as on the psychological aspect of these torture. Despite the pain, the participants experienced moral satisfaction and pleasure from what was happening.
BDSM practices
Adherents of the BDSM subculture use in their sexual life a wide variety of practices based on the dominance of one or more partners and the subordination of others. Here are just a few of them:
Bastinado. This practice is based on the flogging of the feet. The dominant (upper) usually uses a bamboo cane for this. Submissive (lower) at the same time immobilized. This is done so that the subordinate cannot reflexively retire his legs.
Bandage. One of the most common practices. The lower partner is connected, coacked or enclosed in captivity in another way (for example, locked in a cage).
Scheme. Used more often in established BDSM parach. This is a special tattoo that indicates one partner belonging to another.
Feyissitting. During this practice, the upper partner sits on the face of. At the same time, Feyissitting can be either with oral sex and without it.
Fisting. Stimulation of the genitals (vagina or anus) by introducing the hand.
Strangulation. It is used for the sake of obtaining sexual satisfaction using a short -term pollination of the carotid artery on the neck.
Flogging. The oldest BDSM practitioner. The dominant with the help of a palm, whips or other devices makes pops on the buttocks or back of the lower partner.
BDSM in sex has long been naughty to be something abnormal. These practices, with a joint desire, can bring diversity to the sexual life of partners and strengthen their emotional and physical connection with each other. Along with this, many hobbies in bed have ceased to be attributed to perversions and BDSM. So, for example, no one is surprising that the husband wants to cum in his mouth, although recently it caused a lot of bewilders.