How to persuade her to anal?.
Not all women agree to anal sex. But this does not mean that you cannot persuade them. If you find the right approach, then everything will work out. There are several true ways to bring her to this experience, and also make it like that she likes.
Why anal sex?
Why is men striving for anal sex so? Firstly, the forbidden fruit is always sweet. And the more she resists, the more interesting the victory at the end. Secondly, there is a desire to possess her woman completely. And admission to all holes is evidence of her trust and love. And also this is an interesting experience that not everyone experienced, and it is worth trying it.
Physiologically anus is a very strong muscle, it wraves a dick with great force. Such experiences are difficult to compare with vaginal or oral sex. And although there is no feeling that you are resting against something, but the head and trunk are massaged very intensively.
For women, anal sex is also a very pleasant activity. He can lead or not to orgasms, but a special emotional background is created. Such experience brings closer, makes relations stronger. This sex is more tender. It requires a long prelude, and men are ready for it for such an experience.
How to offer her anal sex?
There are two ways to persuade her to anal. The first is a direct proposal. The conversation can be effective, but in most cases he only repels the lady. It is suitable only for pairs who experiment a lot, honestly communicate and do not hide anything from each other.
The second is the girl’s summing up to an experiment without a direct sentence. In the process, she herself will understand everything, but the correct actions will not give her the opportunity to refuse. With this approach, everything is much easier. It is he who helps to persuade her to anal. But only it requires a lot of time and effort. It is about him that will go further.
Errors when sent to her anal sex
A man can make a number of mistakes when he tries to persuade anal. They greatly reduce his chances. They should be avoided under any conditions:
- Never offer her anal at the moment when you are already in bed and before the introduction of a member there are several moments left. The phrase “Or maybe today in the ass?»May sound if such a joint experience has already been. If he was not, he will lead to her strong tension. A woman needs time to prepare both morally and physically. And when she understands that he can enter a narrow hole in one movement, it scares her. And the mood disappears even for vaginal sex.
- No need to ask about her experience of anal sex. It puts her in an uncomfortable position. If it was, then it is like an invitation to repeat. If not, then this is a story about something new that can give her a lot of pleasure. No matter how she answers, there will be some pressure from the asking, and this will not increase the chances of success.
- You should not tell her that if she refuses anal, then you will try it with someone else. Threats and blackmail sometimes act, but there is a chance that she will refuse to communicate with you at all. Fear of anal can defeat love for a man, so you need to act very delicately.
Why women refuse anal sex?
To persuade her to anal, you need to understand why she refuses. Of course, there can be many reasons, but most of them can be combined into several categories:
- Prejudices. Since childhood, people have a relationship to certain actions, parts of the body. And if the girl once heard that sex is bad, she carries this belief in herself. And if she cannot refuse ordinary intercourse, then the anal is ready to reject. With such blocks, you can hear the phrases: “The priest is a way out, not the entrance”, “Only prostitutes give in the ass”, “This hole is not for sex”. At the same time, a person cannot justify his beliefs, he adopts them from others without forming his own opinion.
- Fear to get dirty. Feces have an unpleasant odor. And the understanding that a man can feel or even see the remnants of food on his cock are terrified. Disgust can completely block sexual arousal. The fear of dirt is superficial, but inside a person is afraid that when he saw him in an unsightly light, his loved one will leave, he will not endure such a sight.
- Distrust to the partner. Some of the women are ready to do only with very close people. Surprisingly, vaginal sex is considered less intimate than anal. Only the elected people are treated to such a treat. And if a woman doubts a man, if she does not trust him completely, she may simply not agree to anal out of principle. In this case, the refusal is not justified, the tough “no” just sounds.
- Bad experience. It is more difficult to persuade her to anal if she has already tried, but she didn’t like it. If there were unpleasant physical or moral sensations, then a special approach is required.
There may be other reasons, and they are easy to find out in a conversation. But not in the sentence of new experience, but in the discussion of the article, video, film. Attitude to the actions of other people to discuss much easier.
How to start persuading her on anal?
If the reason for the refusal you found out or even realized that there are two or more, then you need to start acting so as to remove fears. If she is afraid of dirt, and in the end to be abandoned because of the unsightness of the moment, then you need to convince her what she likes in any form. You can stain it in ice cream, atone in medicinal mud or other liquids, and then convince that it only decorates it. And fear will begin to retreat.
If she does not trust, then you just need more time. And sometimes it is worthwhile to figure out what exactly does not suit her and eliminate the cause of not close relationships. It is more difficult to deal with unsuccessful experience and prejudices. But the gradual technique of declining to her anal should help in this.
Psychological preparation for the first anal sex
People are pushing people’s interests. Therefore, you need to properly prepare the soil. You can do this with video, conversations, articles. It is recommended to watch movies where there are scenes of beautiful anal sex. You need to choose not porn, but erotica. And this choice should seem random.
No need to show her a photo or video of the process. This woman does not always excite a woman. But you can discuss the personal life of a star or acquaintances. And let the information about the anal slips somewhere. Firstly, she will understand that others and not only stars of porn do it. Secondly, it can really become interesting-but how it is?
If there is a lot of information about the anal, it will be suspicious. Therefore, the preparatory stage should last from several weeks to several months. And all mention of unusual sex should be associated with something pleasant. The theme “Divorce due to the abandonment of the anal” is unsuccessful, it is worth choosing harmonious stories, where this type of sex is set tempting and attractive.
Physical actions to persuade her to anal
Before anal sex, you will need to prepare it. Words and actions will be used. And you need to understand that the first anal sex may not happen immediately. But the leisurely the preparation will be, the more the chance that she will like and she wants to repeat.
The first stage is anus affection. This must be done slowly, as if between business. Stroking the ass can be very pleasant. The tongue of space between the buttocks can cause chic experiences. But at the same time, do not immediately try to break inward. It should just be accustomed to the fact that you can touch it in this place. And also let her understand that you are completely disgusting for you and even really like it. This stage can last from 2-3 days to several weeks. When she stops clamping, shy, push hands, you can proceed to the next stage.
The second stage is the immersion of the fingers. When it is planned to introduce something inside, you need high-quality lubrication. Buy a lubricant not for anal, but universal. Explain to her that with him the sliding will be more smooth during vaginal sex. Really use it for this, and when the time comes, apply for the ass. It is better to immerse a finger at the time of its maximum excitation. For example, during cunnilingus, you can gently begin to enter the index finger into its ass. You need to do this when it is almost ready to finish. Such movements can strengthen her orgasm if she is no longer shy about your hands in such a delicate place. You can enter a finger during vaginal sex. But if she is against it, it is worth stopping.
The introduction of the first finger is a crucial moment. If she hurts, she will never let you go further. Therefore, it is important to do everything very slowly. And yet – no progressive movements. It is only worth introducing one phalanx inside, and you need to stop. She should get used to the feeling of fullness. All active movements can be left for later. Sometimes addiction occurs quickly, and sometimes it is worth repeating many times.Stage third – second finger. When she no longer resists penetration into her ass, the hole should be expanded. Here you can work with your hands, but it is better to offer her a sex toy. Small anal traffic jams are ideal for this. She can give her a sex toy with rhinestones, which is an excellent decoration. And it is she who will prepare a narrow hole for the introduction of a member.The video is not supported by your browser.If she does not agree to an anal sleeve, you can persuade her to anal, plunging a couple of fingers inside. It is better to make circular movements, as if stretching a hole. Back and forth again, it is not recommended to move. And all caresses should be combined with kisses, tender words, stimulation of other zones.
The fourth stage is the first penetration. If the fingers inside her no longer interfere, it is time to move on to more decisive action. Here it is already worth buying a lubricant with an anesthetic. Anal sex is always a little painful, since a dick is not a finger. But it is the analgesic lubricant who completely removes unpleasant sensations. Apply it in advance-10-15 minutes before the process. And this is just the time for caresses and fingers. And only then you can enter it.
The perfect pose for the first anal sex is behind. But you need to get a job so that the woman is led by movements. The member should be placed between the buttocks, but do not rush to enter inside. You can press a little on a hole, but do not dive. Light fluctuations in bodies may be present, but as a result, the main movements will begin to do it. And the woman will set the pace of introduction. And here a stable erection is very important.
For the first time, you should put the head inside and stop. It takes time again so that she is used to feeling inside her body. It is worth waiting again when it starts to move, and act in time. But the first time you should not perform strong frictions. It is likely that the male orgasm will come very strongly, but it is important to resist the “jerk” at this moment. Of course, the desire to “plant deeper” will be, but with such a movement you can ruin everything. Leave it next time.
How to persuade her to anal: rules of conduct
- The most important thing at the time of its preparation is not to scare. If she cannot relax, the probability that she will agree is small. Therefore, at any stage, it is important to listen to her words, to follow her feelings.
- If she tells me to stop, you need to do it instantly. But only without sudden movements. It is not recommended to pull your fingers or member from the inside. First stop, and then slow extraction.
- If it hurts, then the hole is not enough enough. Devote more time to preparation. And one more thing: use a special lubricant, not improvised means.
- Stop it, the feeling that I want to go to the toilet. It can occur at the first experiments. In these cases, stops are important. If you freeze, the feeling in the body disappears. Such experiences are natural, but they will disappear in the future.
- Never focus on discharge or smell. If she understands that you immediately want to wash yourself, wipe a member or hand, she may become disgusting. A behave naturally, do not give her a reason to think that the insecurity of the process scares you. And you must take a shower after, but only it should not look like getting rid of something terribly nasty.
- Never alternate anal and vaginal sex. Bacteria from the anus should not fall into the vagina. Therefore, first – shower, and then vaginal sex.
- Do not repeat the anal often. Do not persuade her for the second time that evening. And after the first anal sex, let the rest for a few days. The feeling of discomfort after such contact may be present from several hours to several days, and before its disappearance, repetitions are not recommended.
- If a woman has problems with the intestines, the process should be postponed. She will say about it herself, and there is no need to insist. If she feels uncomfortable, sex may be terrible.
- You can have anal sex during menstruation. This is a great alternative to critical days. But do not forget about condoms.
How to have anal sex for the first time? How to persuade his wife to anal? You need to act slowly, trying to remove all her fears. It is important to make her understand that this experience will make you closer, give a lot of pleasant impressions. And if she really trusts you, she will definitely agree. And then only your actions will depend – whether such sex will become constant in your pair.